First of all, people who self-identify as Christians in the United States, and who weren’t civil rights supporters in this recent dustup, should recognize that the days of being able to impose their religion on non-consenting adults, are ending. That’s the first thing. The bad old days are finally coming to a close, the tide of history is inexorable, and it is against you. You can live the life you want, but you cannot choose the type of life that others lead, as long as they’re not a proximate cause of harm to another human being. So, I suppose, you should begin to become comfortable with that – it’s not up to you to determine the character of society. Society is an abstraction that we give to the aggregate interactions of an entire population – you do not determine your culture, you participate in it.
So participate constructively, by loving your fellow human being and accepting them as who they are as long as they aren’t the proximate cause of harm being done to another human being. And if you really care about the issue of homosexuality, then the next homosexual person, or married couple that you meet, show them love and acceptance. Show them that they can know you by your fruits, and that your religion is really a religion of love, not the hatred that they’re grown up with all of their lives. Consider the fact that lesbian, gay, bisexual and especially transgender children are still at the highest risk of suicide, and think of what you can do to help make the world a place where LGBT children don’t feel as if their very identity means that death is a better choice than life. Think of the fact that, if you really want to draw LGBT people to Jesus, that you’ll need to actually attract them, not condemn them. Not pretend to like them as a sales pitch. Not chat them up as a prelude to getting them to come to your church. I mean simply, relentlessly, demonstrating your love for your fellow man. I mean catching more flies with honey than with vinegar, and honestly loving and honestly accepting all of your fellow human beings, and offering them compassion and support.
So, that’s some stuff you could do. But, as for SSM? You should do what I did with my wife tonight – you should eat dinner as a family, you should spend time together, you should live your life as a couple who are committed to standing the test of time… and then you should go to sleep and do the same thing again the next day.
Millions of Americans are about to have their civil rights restored, they’re going to be free to marry the people they love and raise families with full legal protection, they’re going to be able to feel as if their very love isn’t opposed by the state. They’re going to be full citizens in all respects.
So if that fact really bothers you… what should you do?
You should tend to your own garden.